Choosing to be a single adoptive parent comes with its inherent challenges. While we have seen extraordinary single parents and believe it can be done well, you may face a strong public perception that it takes two parents to adequately care for a child. So here are three things to consider about adopting as a single parent so you can be as prepared as possible to care for your child!

1. Consider Your Support Network

One of the most vital things you can do as a single parent is have a deep, committed support network of friends, families and other adoptive parents. You’ve surely heard about the extensive demands of parenting a child, especially a new born, so be intentional about developing your community before your child comes home. The best way to develop your community is to serve them, inform them, and include them in your personal life. Perhaps one of the best things about adoption is the community that sprouts from it! You’ll find that you not only grew your family by one child, but a whole tribe of loved ones.

2. Consider Your Finances

One of the obvious perks of a parenting as a couple is a dual-income or continued financial support by one partner while the other stays home with the child. Again, this may be overly obvious, but it’s not uncommon for single parents to get caught up in their loving desire to parent a child that overextends their resources. Make sure you have a plan in place to budget for the child’s needs even after the initial fundraising has ceased and your adoption costs have been covered. CNN estimates that on average in America it costs over $200,000 to raise a child from 0-17 years. So be ready for the blessings & the bills that come with adoption.

3. Consider Your Time

This is tied in large part to the previous two considerations mentioned above. Your finances and your community will greatly impact how much time you have to spend with your child. Experts all note how important it is to spend time building attachment with your adopted child in the early stages of their life so make sure to clear time out of your schedule to be close with your child rather than employing an envoy of baby sitters. If you work a highly demanding job that requires you to be away from the home for most of the day, think long and hard about adopting a child in this season.

 

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