During our training to become fost-adopt parents we heard a lot of grim stories…

My husband and I completed our certification and prepared for the worst. We were fostering with the intent to adopt and and heard story after story of families caring for two, three or four children before reaching their goal of adoption. Yet every single anecdote about an unexpected reunification or a challenging relationship with a birth parent was always followed by “unless you get a case that goes smoothly.”

After (truthfully, even before) we completed our certification we began receiving calls.  Nine days after completing our home study, we were driving to the hospital to meet our daughter. She was five and half pounds, angry as can be, and perfectly, entirely healthy. The intake worker from DCFS returned all of our calls and went above and beyond to reach our daughter’s birth mother after she left the hospital. Our MAT assessor was charming and brought us more free diapers than we could use. Our counselor at the WIC office cooed and ooed at the baby and made us feel welcome at every visit. Our Medi-cal-assigned doctor was so lovely we wished our biological son could see him too. Our DCFS foster care worker changed three times and all three women were professional, courteous and conscientious. We were welcomed by two different support groups for fost-adopt families. Our judge was so ruthlessly efficient that he intimidated the lawyers and social workers assigned to our case to move as quickly as possible. Even our daughter’s siblings were placed in fost-adopt families close by, who were willing and excited to meet up and play together!

And yes. There were plenty of sleepless nights spent thinking about the unknowns: constantly-changing information, delays and our complete lack of control over the entire process. Yet less than a year from the day we met her, we signed adoption paperwork with little fanfare and became a family of four.

 

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