1. Be Present
They really cared for me, not just as a means to “get a baby.”
I truly felt their love me.
2. Respect Boundaries
I think the Adoptive parents should respect the BirthMoms wishes and act according to the predetermined birth Plan.
3. Stay Connected
While the adoptive parents are busy adjusting and bonding with the baby, the BirthMom is mourning loss, dealing with hormones, milk coming in, and simultaneously wondering “Should I call them?Am I wanting too much? Why aren’t they sending pictures?”
4. Communicate Expectations
But if everyone communicates their expectations and feelings,the relationship will be so much easier to navigate.
5. Keep Your Word
Remember…She loves him with all her heart and the decision was not made out of lack of love, but because she loved him more than herself.
by Jennie Hundley
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