1. Think of the waiting time before your child comes home as your preparation time.

Once your child is home there’s going to be a whole new set of challenges and all of the trials you faced during the wait is helping you to be ready to be an even better parent to your child. Talk to other adoptive mom’s who have already brought their children home. Let them tell you about the hard things and the beautiful things. Ask adoptive parents what they wished they would have known before their child came home.

2. Search out groups on Facebook.

There are groups for domestic and many of the international countries. There may even be one that’s been created for your agency or orphanage. I have also connected with many mom’s at adoption retreats and many of the mom’s were local to me. The adoption retreats have refreshed me and renewed my strength in the wait so much!

3. If you are adopting transracially, I recommend looking for transracial adoption groups on Facebook or seeking out books that deal with that topic.

Ask your agency for resources. The more you know the better. The Connected Child by Karyn Purvis is my all time favorite book. Also ‪empoweredtoconnect.org for more of Karyn Purvis’ amazing information. If you are adopting a toddler, I would recommend The Weaver’s Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best. If your child speaks a different language than you, look for apps and books that will help you to learn that language to help you connect with your child when they are home (better yet find someone that speaks their language and practice with them). My favorite resource on Facebook: not just hair: the intersection of hair/skincare and transracial adoption. Another book I recommend is Adopt Without Debt by Julie Gumm.


by Mallory Crain

Mallory Crain is a mother of two young bio kids and is currently waiting (as of March, 2016) for her child from Haiti who is 3 years old and completely blind


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