Ashley Herto

UPDATE: 7/10/18

Our hearts have been on a roller coaster the past week. On Saturday June 30, we were contacted by our adoption agency about a 13 month old boy who was in need of a home and adoptive family. I had just gotten to the beach and Kyle was still at home I called Kyle and told him that I had recieved a phone call for this boy. We talked throughout the day a little and decided that this was a sign. We had never gotten a phone call before, it was a boy (Kyle so badly wants a boy) and it just felt ment to be. So we made the phone call and said we were interested. On Sunday, we were asked to pick him up in philly by noon. So we each drove and met up and got him. We brought him home and fell in love so quickly and were just in a daze over how quickly he came into our lives. On Tuesday we recieved a devastating phone call that the mother was now changing her mind and did not want to consent to the adoption. Heartbroken!💔 We were so unsure of what that ment totally and what our next step was. We were sent contact information for a lawyer that could help us and potentially file an involuntary termination againt the birth mother. We are still in limbo as to what is going to happen and what the best route will be. So for now, we are just going to continue loving on him and giving him the best home possible. We are so thankful for our family and friends for joining us on this journey and helping us jump into raising a 13 month old overnight. We know this journey could end in heartbreak for us and our families who have accepted him as theirs as well. If you say your prayers, just say a prayer for our sweet boy, that he gets the best world possible for him; say a prayer for us, we need all we can get to hopefully win this but if not, to be able to know we did all we could for him while we could, and lastly say a prayer for the birth mother. While I can not imagine giving up your child (voluntarily or involuntarily) is an easy task, pray she does whats best for her son not her personal life. We love you all and could not do any of this without everyone behind us!!! ❤❤❤❤

UPDATE: 9/17/17

It's been a wild week at the Herto's but after a 20 page application, separate autobiographies, multiple background checks and clearances, reference letters, medical reports, water testing, vet checks (for our fur children, duh) and a few other reports and checks to make sure we (for the most part) have our shit together, WE SUBMITTED THE PAPERWORK FOR OUR HOME STUDY!!! YAY!!!!!

So what's next?? Our next step is to schedule an in home visit. They will do a home inspection and interviews.

After approval of that, we will be ready for the match program! But for now, we could use all the good thoughts and prayers to get there.

We can't thank everyone enough for their continued support and help throughout this.

We hope to see everyone at Wine night and can't wait to spend time with you all!!!!

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WE ARE ADOPTING!!

Kyle and I can't wait to share this journey with you! Please read our story!

Even before we got married, Kyle and I talked about how great it will be when the time comes to welcome a baby into our lives. We, as most people do, just assumed that once we felt ready it would happen. Two months before our wedding, I was diagnosed with PCOS. At first, we really didn't know what this meant for us. We started doing research and finding options. We transferred doctors twice and were told fertility treatments were more than likely the only way we will ever carry our own child. Last summer we met with fertility specialists and they gave us hope. Unfortunately, we just aren't where we need to be to start treatments yet.

We decided that with all the options out there we can't wait to love on our own child. So we researched adoption and found it was a perfect fit for us. We reached out to A Baby Step adoption and they welcomed us and have been so great every step of the way so far. We are currently completing our home study.

As you may know with adoption comes substantial cost with bringing your baby home. The cost for adoption can total up to $50,000. It can be discouraging to think about how financially burdensome it is to adopt a child. We are willing and ready to empty our own savings account and take out a loan to see this happen. That said, we also want to ask for your help. The cost for adoption includes our ABSA fee, home study costs, birth mothers expenses, traveling expense, attorney fees, agency fees, profile books, etc. With adoption you can't pay these fees later, you have to pay them up front. Friends and family, we can't do this without you!

We can’t bring home Baby Herto without you! Here are some ways you can help:

• Pray : Simply say a prayer for us! The seemingly unending paperwork, fees, and unknowns can be hard. Pray for the brave birth mother giving up her baby for adoption. One of the happiest moments of our lives, will be one of the hardest moment of hers.
• Give : If you feel led to support us financially you can donate here. We are trying to raise as much money as we can to fund our adoption. But we want to be humble by making our request for help known. Along with raising money we hope to apply for grants, have some fundraisers, use our savings and if needed, take out a loan. Adoption is worth every penny we have.
• Support and Share : If you know someone that has a heart for adoption, share our story with them! We would be honored to have your friends and family pray for us too! We can’t do this alone.

We are surrounded by the best support team and we truly can not do this with out all of you! We can't wait for baby Herto to feel the love we feel from everyone around us!