We have big news! We are in the process of adopting a baby! We are so excited and supporting each other through all of the feelings that come with beginning on this journey again together.
Last year we were connected through a friend with a birth mom who did not feel that she could take care of another child and was interested in giving her baby up for adoption. She loved the idea of doing this with someone that her friend knew and trusted. Due to health issues, we had decided that adoption was the path for us to start a family. So after careful consideration we agreed to embark on the journey of a private adoption! A few months later we found out birth mom was having a baby girl. We were so excited to have a daughter! Our family and friends were beyond excited as well.
Birth mom asked that we name the baby so that she knew what to call her when she talked to her in her belly. So we picked a name and shared it with birth mom and only close family and friends. We began to put the nursery together and prepared for the arrival of our baby girl over the next few months. A baby shower was thrown and all. We met with an attorney who helped guide us along in the process and drew up the paperwork we needed.
We stayed connected to birth mom often and supported her through the process. She had many many questions (as she should!) and we spent hours some days making sure that we answered everything that she wanted to know. As time went on, our love grew more and more for our baby girl and so did our feelings for birth mom; we felt so connected to her. She often asked for pictures of the nursery, clothes, and baby items. We were so happy to share this all with her.
In August of this year, our baby girl was born. However, birth mom went into labor and gave birth without giving us notice. It wasn’t until two days later that she told us she had the baby and had changed her mind and was keeping the baby. Words cannot begin to describe how devastated we were in that moment and how painful that experience continues to be. While we can never fully understand, we can imagine the process of giving up a baby is one of the most difficult things someone can do. We held space and understanding for this while also allowing ourselves to fully grieve and sit in the heartbreak of losing our daughter.
We have given it a lot of thought and after many prayers, tears, and months of sitting in and processing our feelings together; we are now ready to move forward in starting a family together again. We have decided to work with Morning Star adoption agency this time around. We are beginning the process of completing the paperwork for the home study. After which, our profile will be posted on their waiting list and we will wait to be match with a birth mom.
Going through the first adoption process privately we invested a lot financially. And because birth mom changed her mind, we were not able to get any of that money back. Therefore, to begin on this journey again we need your help!
It may surprise you to hear that adoption related costs can easily total up to $35,000 or more. This is why we have set a goal of $20,000 to help ease the financial burden that often overwhelms adoptive parents. If you would like to donate towards our adoption please be assured that your donation is not only tax-deductible but will only be used towards expenses associated directly with adoption.
Thank you so much for your generosity and kindness in helping us to receive the greatest gift of all, a child! And making our dreams of becoming a family come true.
