In the past two years, I have had four surgeries to remove cysts off of my fallopian tubes. In March of 2018, one of my fallopian tubes had to be removed due to a basketball size cyst that destroyed it. In March of 2019, my remaining fallopian tube had to be removed as cysts were forming too rapidly. To this day, we are still unsure as to why cysts would continually form off of my tubes, but we believe that they were damaged while my mother was carrying me. On top of this, I also suffer from PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome). With both of my tubes being gone, the only way I will ever be able to carry a child will be with IVF (in-vetro fertilization). IVF is typically not covered by insurance and starts at about $10K. One day I hope that this will be a possibility.
Over the past two years, coming to terms with the fact that I cannot get pregnant like a majority of the other women has caused me a lot of grief. I went into a depression. I hated myself. I would get angry whenever anyone would announce their pregnancy. Any time I would think about it, it would bring me to my knees and I couldn’t stomach it. Throughout my life, I have been through a lot, but this was by far the worst pain I’d ever experienced. After the removal of my last tube, I told my boyfriend to leave. I knew how bad he wanted a family and I wasn’t going to be able to give that to him in a traditional way. He refused.
Fast forward to September 16, 2019… A friend I went to middle school with approached me with questions about adoption and how my boyfriend and I felt about it. I told her that we would love to try IVF first, but if that didn’t happen adoption was our next option. She then told me she was pregnant and was wondering if my boyfriend and I would adopt her baby.
We are now expecting a baby come May 2020.
We are overjoyed and I believe that everything that I went through… everything we went through… was specifically for this reason. The universe knew what she was doing.
In order to adopt this baby, we have to get a lawyer and with a lawyer.. comes fees. I know this is a long shot, but any donation helps. If you can’t donate, because I know that times are tough, sharing this is more than enough.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read our story and for all the love and support. We cannot wait to show off our little bean as soon as she/he gets here. â¤ï¸
