Jacob & Daisy Burgan

Updates

• Update 13

  

  We have been chosen as Braxton's Adoptive Resource!

  November 3, 2025

  On May 26, 2024 we got a phone call that there was 15 month old boy that really needed our help. He was from a family where no one was capable or able to take him in. His parents were having some real struggles and he would need to be in our care while they worked a program from Children's Division to receive him back in their care. That work was not sufficiently done, and other information emerged that indicated that he would need permanency. We took him as a pre-adoptive placement knowing and hoping that he might be with us forever. During this time we have discovered that he has some special needs and we are attending to them through therapy services. The judge changed the goal on his case in August to Adoption removing the reunification goal. We attended his adoption staffing in October and have been selected to adopt him by the state of Missouri. Currently the state is pursuing a termination of parental rights. Once this is finalized we will go to the next step in the process and be able to adopt Braxton. Our hearts are full. Thank you for supporting us and believing in us. Braxton will be three years old in February. We are hoping that the process happens speedily and we get to adopt him before then! Keep praying!

• Update 12

  

  November 4, 2024 -Introduction Anthony Edward Burgan

  May 11, 2025

  On September 4, 2019 Jake and I stepped into Christian Family Services of the Midwest’s office to begin our domestic private adoption journey. 43 days later on October 16, 2019, Anthony was placed in fostercare. He has been in fostercare for 1,847 days. Almost as long as we have been looking to adopt, Anthony has been looking for a family. We did not give him life but the Father of life gave him to us. Truly, in more ways than one, God sets the lonely in families.

• Update 11

  

  Becoming a Mother, promises fulfilled - My Story

  May 11, 2025

  Becoming a Mother, promises fulfilled - My Story
  Mother’s day was not always my favorite. It felt like infertility awareness day. I was broke down from the wait, stripped of dignity, made to feel like I was on the outside in every sphere of life. The accusation of my own heart was worse than the whispers, and unsolicited advice of those ignorant to the fact that no stone was left unturned. Then there was the pain of the silence of those I thought were my friends. Jake ane I walked through a fire only the discerning could see.
  It did not just test me, it tested us. I’ll never forget the look of relief on my husband’s face when we walked out of our first infertility support group. We both saw that we truly were not alone, and that others could understand our grief. We learned how to love one another through God’s silence, the waiting and through decisions that broke us open. When the doors to biological parenthood closed, the window of adoption opened. And when an unethical adoption agency gave us an ultimatum with a price tag on Mother’s day 3 years ago, I wept in disbelief and my husband heroically and firmly stood up to them when I was crumbling.
  Being coached on multiple routes to family building, we were already in process with our foster license which became an open door to building our family. Our children did not grow beneath my heart, but within it, and my husband’s heart grew in the shape of fierce, strong, protective, steady love. He himself who had also been in the system as a teen and rescued from it.
  This Mother’s Day, I’m writing my story, for the ones who walked through the fire and came out holding hands. As I gardener, I cannot help but see the parallels. Some things grow in silence, some bloom only after seasons of loss. Infertility taught me how to plant hope even when the soil felt dry. Adoption taught me that families grow in unexpected places. Fostercare challenges us to plant seeds in soil we may never see bloom, pulling weeds from trauma and praying something gentle survives.
  Before I ever held a baby, I held seeds. Infertility broke me but gardening reminded me that life begins in the dark. I am a mom now through adoption. By faith we have chosen to love children through uncertainty with the hope of becoming a forever home if reunification is not possible.
  I’m still learning how to nurture, how to wait, and let things grow in their own time. On this first Mother's Day with littles, I’m in a sacred season. Mothering a medically fragile newborn, navigating appointments, the system, and pouring love into a little heart and lungs that fought for every breath. All while mothering our toddler and teen. Truly, to the hungry man every bitter thing is sweet, it is my privilege. But there is no way we can do it alone, and are grateful to all who have wrapped around us.
  The money you donated remains in this account until needed for adoption expenses. In the foster care system there are times were there are additional legal expenses during an adoption process. this money will be retained in this account at adopt together until this time. Should the money not have to be used in building our family, we can sign it over to the non-profit to be used in another family's adoption. We will not do this until we know for certain that it is not needed for our family. Thank you, God bless you and Happy Mother's Day!

• Update 10

  WE HAVE AN ADOPTION DATE!!!

  October 7, 2024

  Anthony'a adoption day is officially Monday, November 4th, 2024! We got the news this morning. We are so excited to learn about this. There was some red tape, but we finally were able to break through and get things settled. Looking forward to planning the festivities. You are welcome to join us at the courthouse for this special occasion. Please reach out to me for more details if you would like to be there.

• Update 9

  

  We are adopting Anthony!!

  September 24, 2024

  On this 46th birthday God has given me the gift of family. What a good gift 🥹
  On August 23rd, Jake and I began the official process of adopting Anthony. We have been in meetings and filling out paperwork since. Every box has to be checked and every due diligence done.
  On Thursday, September 12 we asked Anthony if we could be his parents.
  He said yes ☺️
  The next day he had to sign this adoption decree at the lawyers office. Because he is over 14 he had to consent.
  It has been an emotional ride since then. It has been a very sobering time for me personally. I have been pondering many things in my heart as they have been happening and coming together.
  To long, believe and pray and trust God to build my family and then submit to him in faith as he does it his way has been a way of surrender, expectation, joy and at times tinged with grief.
  As we begin to look at the dates we learned something interesting. Jake and I signed our initial adoption paperwork to initiate our domestic private adoption home study on September 4, 2019. Anthony came into fostercare 42 days later. He has been looking for a family for as long as we have officially been looking for a child. 🥹😭
  While there is joy, there is sadness. His family will never be the same again. He carries this and we carry it with him, and some days it is heavier than others.
  This is his story and our story, we share it because you are a group of vetted family and friends. We ask that you not post anything about this publicly until the adoption is final. We should have had an official date a week ago, but they hit a snag, and we are waiting for it to get worked out. We hope to announce as soon as we know. Keep us in prayer especially that the exhaustion would fully lift so that I can be prepared for the next leg of this journey of mothering. Thank you for your continued support.
  Much love ,
  The Burgans

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